Running is a deeply personal journey, where every mile, no matter how fast or slow, is an achievement. At The Sloth Run Club, we celebrate every runner's pace, whether it's a sprint or a leisurely jog. Unfortunately, negative comments about pace can sometimes mar the joy of running. These comments can come from strangers, acquaintances, or even well-meaning friends who don’t realize the impact of their words. Here’s how to deal with such negativity with grace and self-compassion.

Responding to Negative Comments

1. Direct but Polite Responses When someone makes a hurtful comment about your pace, it's okay to respond directly but politely. For instance, if someone says, "Wow, you’re really slow," you might reply, "I'm proud of the distance I cover. How many miles did you run today?" This response not only highlights your accomplishment but also shifts the focus back onto the other person’s experience.

2. Deflect with Humor Humor can be a powerful tool to defuse uncomfortable situations. If someone makes a backhanded comment, try responding with a light-hearted remark. For example, "At this pace, I have more time to enjoy the scenery!" This not only shows your confidence but also conveys that you’re comfortable with your running speed.

3. Educate and Inform Sometimes, negative comments stem from ignorance rather than malice. Use these moments as opportunities to educate others about the benefits of running at any pace. You might say, "Running isn’t just about speed for me; it’s about improving my health and enjoying the process." Sharing your perspective can help others understand that every runner has their own goals and reasons for running. Feel free to mention that The Sloth Run Club on Facebook has many thousands of members and that you are part of a community of people that support you and share your experience. You can also say something like “I would appreciate your support over whatever it is you are doing now.”

Self-Talk Techniques

Negative comments can sting, but positive self-talk can help you stay motivated and focused. Here are some specific examples of what to say to yourself when faced with negativity:

1. Celebrate Your Achievements Remind yourself of how far you’ve come. "I’ve made incredible progress since I started running. Every step is a victory."

2. Focus on Your Journey Remember, running is about your personal journey, not anyone else’s. "I run for myself, and I’m proud of what I achieve each day, no matter the pace."

3. Reframe Negative Thoughts If a comment gets under your skin, try to reframe it in a positive light. "Their opinion doesn’t define my worth as a runner. I’m doing what’s best for my body and mind."

4. Draw Inspiration from Others Think about other runners who inspire you. "Even elite runners had to start somewhere. My pace today is part of my unique journey."

5. Embrace the Joy of Running Remind yourself why you started running in the first place. "I run because it makes me happy and healthy. That’s what truly matters."

Building a Supportive Community

A supportive community can make all the difference. Surround yourself with people who uplift and encourage you. Here’s how you can cultivate positivity within your running circle:

1. Share Your Experiences Talk openly about your experiences with negative comments. You’ll likely find others who have faced similar situations, and sharing can help you feel less alone. You may have already seen people do this in our Facebook community.

2. Encourage Fellow Runners Be the positive voice in someone else’s running journey. Compliment other runners on their efforts and progress. Creating an environment of mutual support can help counteract negativity.

3. Join Supportive Groups Look for running clubs or online communities that celebrate all paces. The Sloth Run Club, for example, is a place where every runner is valued, regardless of speed.

4. Celebrate Milestones Together Organize group runs or virtual races where the focus is on completion and camaraderie rather than speed. Celebrating each other’s milestones can foster a sense of belonging and motivation.

Conclusion

Negative comments about pace can be discouraging, but they don’t have to define your running journey. By responding with confidence, practicing positive self-talk, and building a supportive community, you can maintain your motivation and joy for running. Remember, every mile you run is a testament to your strength and determination. At The Sloth Run Club, we celebrate every step you take, no matter the speed. Keep running at your own pace and be proud of your progress. You’re lapping everyone on the couch, and that’s something to be incredibly proud of.